tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2582071926823792964.post4588596709574549280..comments2024-03-17T00:20:27.720-07:00Comments on indelible edibles: social construction zoneErin Gonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00885934413382895072noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2582071926823792964.post-70410512526788973042009-01-30T07:11:00.000-08:002009-01-30T07:11:00.000-08:00I've always found it interesting that we are so mu...I've always found it interesting that we are so much defined by what we do for a job. Have you noticed that if you are with your husband when you meet someone they will ask what he does, but not what you do? That happens frequently to me. <BR/><BR/>That script is funny though because as insincere and meaningless as it sometimes sounds, I often find myself asking people the same thing. <BR/><BR/>I had a colleague who would always ask people what their dream job would be. I only ever heard one person say they were doing their dream job and it certainly started some good conversation.<BR/><BR/>Good luck at the next party, let us know what you did to shake up the conversation.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09526218680918925272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2582071926823792964.post-75005073456725145322009-01-29T20:33:00.000-08:002009-01-29T20:33:00.000-08:00And yet you've never struck me as "not" caring abo...And yet you've never struck me as "not" caring about the people you meet...you're already a good listener!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00824027366993286152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2582071926823792964.post-70555179013574194822009-01-29T19:18:00.000-08:002009-01-29T19:18:00.000-08:00That's what we spent practically our whole first q...That's what we spent practically our whole first quarter on in my counseling program: getting past the surface-level talk. I could recommend some good books about it for you, but I find a lot of it is summed up in the "unconditional positive regard" of Rogerian therapy. He could call it that all he wanted--it's basically charity, and we know that works.tpmotdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456475608512277499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2582071926823792964.post-72173936465824806352009-01-29T17:23:00.000-08:002009-01-29T17:23:00.000-08:00Sounds good--I'll have to check it out. Here are ...Sounds good--I'll have to check it out. Here are my thoughts: as a mom w/no current paid employment (unless you count the bit of babysitting afterschool), I have trouble "defining" myself when first meeting someone. Usually, the conversation hits an awkward point right after, "I am a stay-at-home mom"... I like what Derek has hit upon--we both like to read and we are always interested in others' hobbies. So why not ask people what they like to do in their spare time? It's opened up some much better avenues to friendship and leaves behind a lot of that awkward, oh, he works for DOD or, oh, she is JUST at home with her kids right now... (The unspoken part being, "She'll actually do meaningful work when her kids are grown.") snark, snark...Maren Hansenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07661017638364523857noreply@blogger.com